Sacred Rage: Learning to Embody it and Learn From It

As a woman, I’ve experienced my fair share of toxic masculinity, ranging from gaslighting to anger to shame tactics. And for years, I would suppress the anger. I would turn inwards and examine what I did wrong and how I could become more perfect so I wouldn’t trigger those behaviors in others.

And as I’ve traveled this path of deep devotion to my worthiness, my sacredness, my love for myself – I’ve learned that my anger is a communication tool of self.

When anger arises, it can reveal a plethora of information for me to reflect on.
childhood pain that’s asking to be seen ancestral trauma and pain that’s looking to be released I’m abandoning myself and stronger boundaries need to be set
Injustices are being committed and I’m being called to take action.

For each person, the root of the anger might be different. But the commonality is that our anger is sacred. Society as taught us that anger only leads to violence and has become been villainized.

Angry women are depicted as irrational, hysterical, hormonal, unstable, and unreliable. We’re shamed and condemned for our anger. And this is taken to another level in regards to marginalized communities.

We are taught to suppress those emotions that can feel too raw or uncomfortable to others. It’s our responsibility to always take care of others before ourselves.

Generations of women are carrying the weight of generations of abuse, neglect, pain, trauma, and silencing within their bones. Within their DNA. Within their energetic fields.

And so when we get angry, it’s not just ours – it’s our ancestors. It’s all the women in your lineage who had been told to stay small, stay silent, stay controlled and submissive.
When we claim our anger, we claim our power.

Anger doesn’t control us, it inspires us.

Anger can burn through what no longer serves us and light on fire the path forward.
Anger is simply an emotion and what we choose to do with it tells the story of who we are.
Because yes, anger can turn to violence.

But to those willing to embrace the anger rather than hide behind it – it becomes sacred.
It becomes a way for us love ourselves more fully. To show greater devotion to ourselves. To honor what is asking to be seen and then release it.

When we embody our anger, rather than hide behind it using it to hurt others, we are offered the opportunity to expand. To grow and evolve.

We can learn much from our anger, if we’re willing to sit with it long enough to listen.
And when we understand what it’s revealing to us, we are gifted the ability to release it.
By creating

Creating movement: dancing, running, stretching, walking, cleaning, taking action

Creating art: writing, painting, pottery, building websites, drawing

Creating community: talking with friends, giving and receiving hugs, donating time and energy to your community, connecting with people online

Creating clarity: journaling, meditating, somatic practices, naps,

It doesn’t matter what it is. You’ll know what feels right at any given moment.

The right way to move through the anger and release will present itself. The more you embrace your anger, the lighter it becomes. Because it’s no longer a deep, dark secret that never gets to be acknowledged.

And when we come from a place of creation as a means of release, the anger alchemizes into something powerful.

It becomes connection.

Connection to our bodies. Connection to our minds. Connection to our community.

And most importantly, it connects us more deeply to our souls.

Emily